By N. B. Cardoso
“Start living now. Stop saving the good china for that special occasion. Stop withholding your love until that special person materializes. Every day you are alive is a special occasion. Every minute, every breath, is a gift from God.” Mary Manin Morrissey
It hit a personal note with me, since it brought back memories of my family. To this day I see my mom still saving the best china, the best linen, the best of everything for those ‘special guests’ that never came and, probably never will.
But like everything in life, there was a lesson in the learning. Growing up observing this behavior has taught me a valuable one. It has taught me that my family are the ‘special people‘, ‘the honored guests’, it has taught me that everyone else can eat on paper plates, and use everyday towels. My family, my children, my closets friends are the ones who deserves the crystal, the fine china, the 800 egyptian cotton sheets, the embroidered towels, they are the honored guests, the kings and queens of my castle and for them there is nothing less than red carpet, V.I.P. treatment, the best I can offer is given to them first.
I heard someone tell me, years ago when he bought a new car charcoal instead black (which was the color he liked). He said the reason why he bought a different color was that, ‘people won’t know I have a new car if it was the same color’…it is funny to look back and see how things happens. At that instant, this little conversation and such a mundane event I realized the abyss between us. What people? Was the thought that came to my head, but as the old me used to do, I kept my silence.
There I was, talking about a man who had to think long and hard to come up with one single name of a friend I mean, a true friend, not someone who works at the office or he would play golf with once or twice a year. What a naiveté, what a frivolity, what a shame and waste. To this day I wonder what people was he so concerned about? Instead of giving the best and being a true friend, cheering and respecting the ones closest to him, he spent his time trying to impress strangers who hardly spend a minute of their lives paying attention to him, even less to the color, or how old or new his car was.
The point is, don’t refuse to your family and loved ones the things you can give, in benefit of strangers who don’t know, or care about you. Give the best love you possibly can to the ones close to you. Listen, talk, respect, motivate, embrace, speak out loud how important they are to you, let them know how proud and happy your are for having them. Focus your time and energy on the ones who truly counts.
Create a solid foundation and at one point you will realize the people who loves you really don’t care if you serve them on crystal or paper trays, all they really care is about you, is to be with and around you, is to be a part of your life.